‘The Only Woman in the Room’ Demonstrates the Maddening Tragedy of Brilliant Women

Hedy Lamarr’s story is heartbreaking and infuriating.

Oct. 21, 2019, 3:02 p.m.

Warning: This post contains spoilers for Marie Benedict’s “The Only Woman in the Room,” although all spoilers are also just historical facts. Proceed at your own discretion.

When I finished Marie Benedict’s latest ...

Sexist Halloween Costumes Show Us Just How Far We Haven’t Come

I’m getting particularly tired of pumpkin-spice flavored sexism.

Oct. 20, 2019, 3:37 p.m.

This should be old news by October of 2019, but here I am writing about it anyway. Halloween costumes are sexist, yeah yeah, we get it. This topic has been done to death only to ...

What the All-Female Spacewalk Means to Women

It’s one giant leap for woman-kind.

Oct. 19, 2019, 1:57 p.m.

On Friday morning, at 7:38 am EST, Jessica Meir and Christina Koch made history in the first-ever all-female spacewalk in NASA’s 61-year history. They are supported on the ground by another woman, flight ...

5 Steps to Stop Waking Up Anxious Every Day

Jumpstart your daily productivity by keeping your mind healthy

Oct. 19, 2019, 1:56 p.m.

It’s 6:00 am, and I’m awake. My alarm isn’t set to go off for another two hours, but I’m always woken up early with a giant pang of anxiety. The ...

How to be a Good Friend to Fighting Couples

Empathy is the key.

Oct. 18, 2019, 6:04 p.m.

There’s a lot of advice out there on how to handle your own relationship — but what happens when you’re tasked with fixing someone else’s? While most of us (rightly) try to stay ...

Hillary Clinton is Right — We Do Need to be Sensitive To Women’s Concerns

Clinton has recently been called a “TERF” for advocating sensitivity for women’s rights.

Oct. 16, 2019, 3:03 p.m.

Hillary Clinton has come under fire this week from trans advocates for her recent comments to Decca Aitkenhead in an interview with The Times, a British paper. Clinton has publicly supported transgender human rights in ...

I Don’t Read Comments From Men

It’s just not worth it.

Oct. 15, 2019, 8:55 p.m.

Let’s just get this out of the way: I hate social media. There’s no hiding it. Despite the fact that I actually run a social media site, I truly despise it. Nothing gives ...

I’m an Atheist, but I Still Miss Church Sometimes

It’s hard to replicate that sense of community elsewhere.

Oct. 14, 2019, 11:04 p.m.

I grew up in an extreme evangelical Christian church. The type of church where kids go to Bible camp in the summer, pastors blame natural disasters on gay people, and Harry Potter is burned at ...

What’s In A (Woman’s) Name?

It’s time to stop letting men hold the power of language, history, and identity.

Oct. 13, 2019, 9:59 p.m.

There is, perhaps, a no more constant reminder to women of our subjugation than our own names. A woman’s name, supposedly her most personal possession, central to her identity, is wrought with the history ...

Apologizing for my Poor Family

I didn’t feel ashamed of my background until I got out.

Oct. 12, 2019, 4:19 p.m.

When we arrive at my in-laws’ home in Spring, Texas, a charming Houston suburb, I’m immediately hit by the smell of blueberry muffins and laundry detergent. The house my partner, Alex, grew up in ...

Am I Losing My Mind or Is It Just My Period?

When mental illness and a female body collide

Oct. 8, 2019, 5 p.m.

I’ve struggled with my mental health since I was young. For me, it seems like there’s a strong genetic component — all of my biological siblings suffered from depression when they hit puberty, while ...

I Never Thought a Radical Feminist Could Love a Man Like This

Three and a half years later, we’re still going strong.

Oct. 8, 2019, 4:59 p.m.

It’s hard to overstate how sure I was just a few short years ago that I would never date another man again. At the age of 21, I had thrown myself into radical feminist ...

How I Achieved an 80% Medium Curation Rate in September

Follow the rules, format well, and cite your sources

Oct. 8, 2019, 4:58 p.m.

Last month, I decided to make writing on Medium my part-time job. I published a total of 16 pieces (only 14 of which were “real” articles — two were never really meant to be widely distributed ...

Is Drag Misogynistic?

It’s time to stop letting sexist gay men off the hook.

Oct. 7, 2019, 4:10 p.m.

I’m hardly the first one to pose this question, and I won’t be the last. The truth is, gay men have been getting away with misogyny since the start of the gay liberation ...

I Found My Ex’s Secret Sex Tape

One thing was clear: Rose didn’t know she was being filmed.

Oct. 5, 2019, 3:44 p.m.

It was the summer of 2011 when I found the video. I had just completed my first year of college, and I was back in my hometown for the summer. My family was a wreck ...

“The Husband’s Secret” and Laughing at Men

Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.

Oct. 4, 2019, 2:34 p.m.

Warning: This post contains major spoilers for Liane Moriarty’s, The Husband’s Secret.

Liane Moriarty’s 2013 book, The Husband’s Secret, is a page-turning mystery that centers on the lives of three ...

All My Friends Are Poly

Is polyamory really progressive? Or just the same-old patriarchy?

Oct. 3, 2019, 3:19 p.m.

Alright, I may have exaggerated a bit. Certainly, not all of my friends are polyamorous — but it sure is starting to feel that way.

A couple of weeks ago my (monogamous) partner and I attended ...

Why I Stopped Reading Fiction

And how I got the bug back after a five-year hiatus.

Oct. 3, 2019, 3:19 p.m.

The blinking clock on my dresser reads 10:34 PM, and I’m halfway through a novel I bought only a few hours ago. This will be the second novel I finish this week, after ...

How Porn Perpetuates Rape Culture

It’s not just harmless fun.

Oct. 1, 2019, 3:56 p.m.

The term “rape culture” was coined by the Second Wave feminists, but in the #MeToo era it has taken on a life of its own. Brock Turner, Brett Kavanaugh, and Harvey Weinstein have become the ...

“He’s Just More Logical Than Me”

How we let men get away with not caring.

Sept. 30, 2019, 8:58 p.m.

“He’s just more logical than me.”

I have heard this phrase more times than I can count, only uttered by women in relationships with men. I have even said it myself. And I am ...

Being Attacked At Gunpoint Helped Me Understand Conservatives

Not enough to totally change my mind, though.

Sept. 29, 2019, 10:47 p.m.

A little over a month ago, my partner, Alex, and I were attacked at our West Philadelphia home by a man with a gun. What started out as a simple neighbor dispute over porch gardens ...

I Don’t Care What Your Job Is

I care what you’re giving to the world.

Sept. 28, 2019, 5:45 p.m.

In our capitalist-driven culture, it feels nearly impossible to separate your job from your sense of self. “What do you do?”, strangers ask you as polite small talk. Maybe you do gardening, maybe you raise ...

‘The Testaments’ Tries to Explain Female Participation in Patriarchy

But reality isn’t as glamorous as fiction.

Sept. 27, 2019, 4:28 p.m.

Warning: This post contains major spoilers for Margeret Atwood’s new book, “The Testaments”.
In her new sequel to “The Handmaid’s Tale”, “The Testaments”, Marget Atwood attempts to answer two of the biggest questions ...

My Partner Thinks He’s More Aware of Danger Than Me

But really, I’m just more used to it.

Sept. 26, 2019, 5:23 p.m.

It’s a common scene in our relationship: We’re walking down the street at night and Alex, my partner of over three years, suddenly speeds up. Or maybe he switches sides with me on ...

Learning to Love My Hairy Legs

Am I a bad feminist if I don’t?

Sept. 25, 2019, 5:51 p.m.

Two years ago, I stopped shaving my legs. At the time I was living in a vegan feminist cooperative— which is pretty much exactly what you would imagine.

None of the other women there shaved ...

Does Anyone Actually Think Ukraine Will Change Anything?

Maybe I’m too jaded — but I also doubt that I’m alone.

Sept. 25, 2019, 5:50 p.m.

We’ve been hearing about it for days, now: President Trump pressured the President of Ukraine to dig up political dirt on 2020 rival Joe Biden and his son, possibly in exchange for military aid ...

It’s Time to Stop Dating Men Who Use Porn

Yeah, I said it.

Sept. 24, 2019, 3:07 p.m.

Two years ago when I asked my boyfriend to stop using porn, I was afraid. I didn’t want to break up, but in the 15 months since we had met, this became a deal-breaker ...

Can Houseplants Really Help With PTSD?

Growing and Healing Together

Sept. 23, 2019, 4 p.m.

Last year, I learned that I have Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). My diagnosis didn’t exactly come as a surprise to anyone. I spent years in an abusive relationship where I was exposed to serious ...

Universal Basic Income Might Have Saved My Mom’s Life

How UBI Could Help Victims of Domestic Violence

Sept. 22, 2019, 5:24 p.m.

Warning: This post contains discussion of suicide, domestic violence, and sexual abuse.


Four years ago, on September 23rd, 2015, my mom took her own life. She was 50 years old and left behind six children ...

How To Use Social Media Without Losing Your Mind

Stop, Drop, and Roll

Sept. 21, 2019, 3:49 p.m.

Weall know it. Social media is a total dumpster fire. We know these corporations are abusing us — mining our data for profit. We know it makes us completely miserable and hinders our ability to form ...

Dear Women: It’s Okay to be Disliked

(Especially if you’re trying to change the world)

Sept. 20, 2019, 2:08 p.m.

We all want to be well-liked.

Girls are conditioned from a young age to prioritize being liked and accepted above nearly all else. Pleasantness and agreeableness are important traits of femininity. In some ways, this ...

Spinster is in its infancy, but is already making waves in the Fediverse

Sept. 13, 2019, 12:39 p.m.

On August 12th, Spinster, a women-first social media platform, burst into the Fediverse. In its first month, Spinster faced misogynistic attacks from both the left and the right, repeated attempts to de-platform us (including removal ...

A Radical Feminist Walks into a Wedding

On coping with contradictions as a gender abolitionist

Sept. 11, 2019, 2:34 p.m.

It’s wedding season in the United States — a time of friends and family, celebrations, joy, and new beginnings. This wedding season I’m attending two, and am a bridesmaid in one of them. I ...

Refugees from Reality: Religious Trauma and Gender Identity

Sept. 10, 2019, 9:18 a.m.

Transgender identities are on the rise in the United States and across the world. Between 2011 and 2016 the rate of trans-identifying people in the United States doubled to 1.4 million, an unprecedented jump ...

How I Learned to Love Free Speech

Aug. 23, 2019, 1:14 p.m.

When I was in high school, my boyfriend was black. His father was a Baptist pastor at a local church and worked as a park ranger at Valley Forge National Park. Mr. Jones* was a ...

How Finding Radical Feminism Radically Changed my Self-worth

Aug. 10, 2019, 6:12 p.m.

Like most other women today, I’ve been worried about how I look since I was a young girl. I don’t remember when exactly it started, maybe in middle school. I remember looking at ...

Inside the “Jewish Feminism” Conspiracy of the Alt-Right

How an alarming DM sent me down the disturbing rabbit hole of neo-Nazi propaganda

Aug. 8, 2019, 1:10 p.m.

The other day I received a message on one of my personal social media accounts. The ominous note simply read, “How do you do fellow feminist?” and was accompanied by an image of 55 feminists ...

We Can’t Ignore It Any Longer: Mass Shootings are a Male Violence Problem

It’s been said before, but it’s time to say it again.

Aug. 4, 2019, 10:58 a.m.

At least 29 people have been killed in mass shootings this week, and another 50+ wounded. The shootings in Gilroy, El Paso, and Dayton are only a fraction of the 32 total mass shootings that ...

How my Cat and I Left our Abusive Ex Together and Learned to Trust Again

Aug. 3, 2019, 10:50 a.m.

My cat, Hathor, and I have a lot in common. We’re both morning people, who enjoy waking up with the sun. We both like houseplants and watching the birds out our back window. We ...

Liberals don't know what violence is any more

(especially if it’s against women)

Aug. 2, 2019, 11:04 a.m.

A new trend is growing in progressive liberal circles — calling anything you disagree with “violence”. For example, consider this response I received to a recent article:

"I consider this article an act of violence towards ...

How to bounce back when you lose it all

Aug. 1, 2019, 4:48 p.m.

Have you ever felt like your whole life is falling apart, and that you are losing everything and everyone that matters to you?

I have. A few times now.

In 2016 my mom committed suicide ...

Women face disproportionate barriers in reentry. Meet the Philly organization out to change that.

Published for WOMEN'S WAY on Medium

July 23, 2019, 7:25 p.m.

The United States contains 5% of the total world population — but 20% of the world’s incarcerated population. Women currently represent the fastest-growing prison population, rising 834% between 1978 and 2015 (more than double the ...

Non-binary is the new “not like other girls,” and it’s deeply rooted in misogyny

Medium

July 14, 2019, 2:47 p.m.

In the summer of 2018 I lived in a house with 3 other women. We spent a lot of time together that year, and there were many late-night conversations about the sexism, misogyny, and male ...

The rise of the ‘male feminist’ doesn’t demonstrate a win for feminism

Feminist Current

July 14, 2019, 2:45 p.m.

Self-described male feminist, Aziz Ansari, is making a comeback. On July 9th, Ansari’s new comedy special hit Netflix, marking a major revival after his #MeToo moment last year. In 2018, the comedian, actor, and ...

Sparking Change: What Free Software can Learn from Social Justice Movements

Originally Published in the FSF Bulletin, Issue #34

June 27, 2019, midnight

In his celebrated 1963 “Letter From Birmingham Jail," Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. contrasted "a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice ...

Why I (Still) Defend Women’s Sex-Based Rights

Medium

June 25, 2019, 8:53 p.m.

It’s not popular in “progressive” liberal circles to defend women’s rights any more.

Last year I was forced out of my home and kicked out of an animal rights group I had founded ...

Interview with RBG Director, Julie Cohen

On her path to success, what women owe to RBG, and both of their futures.

May 17, 2019, 3:24 p.m.

Originally published for WOMEN'S WAY on Medium.

On May 22nd WOMEN’S WAY will be awarding the annual Lucretia Mott Award to Oscar-nominated RBG directors Betsy West and Julie Cohen. I had the pleasure of ...

A Running List of Self-Abortion Resources

To be updated as I find more

May 17, 2019, 3:16 p.m.

In the light of the current state of abortion rights in the United States and beyond, I've decided to start collecting a list resources on self-abortion methods as I become aware of them.

If you ...

This Sexual Assault Awareness Month, Let’s Name the Problem

What's missing from the mainstream sexual assault conversation?

April 29, 2019, 11:48 a.m.

Originally published for WOMEN'S WAY on Medium.



We are currently two years into the #MeToo movement against sexual harassment, which continues to spread and take down powerful politicians, actors and comedians, and even clergymen. Even ...

WITS NE 2019: My Experience

The joy and disappointment of the all-female tech conference

April 19, 2019, 10:52 a.m.

The 2019 Northeast Women In Tech Summit (WITS), which took place last Friday and Saturday, brought together a variable who’s-who of female technologists in the greater-Philadelphia region for two days of women-led and women-centric ...

The not-so-secret racism behind PA’s strict abortion laws

Roe may be in jeopardy, but for many women abortion was never accessible anyways.

April 6, 2019, 10:06 a.m.

Originally published on Medium for WOMEN'S WAY.

“I certainly would like to prevent, if I could legally, anybody having an abortion, a rich woman, a middle-class woman, or a poor woman. Unfortunately, the only vehicle ...

Women’s Day 2019: Progress and Pushback

March 17, 2019, 11:09 a.m.

Originally published for WOMEN'S WAY on Medium.

It’s International Women’s Day 2019, and the situation has never been better for women.

The 2018 midterms saw unprecedented numbers of women, including women of color ...

5 Biggest Takeaways from Ijeoma Oluo at WOMEN’S WAY Book Prize

Originally published on Medium

March 6, 2019, 11:19 a.m.

Last night, on Monday March 4th, WOMEN’S WAY awarded their 11th Annual Book Prize to Ijeoma Oluo, author of “So You Want to Talk About Race.” The celebration took place at the Comcast Technology ...

DxE is many things, but it’s not Terrorism

How VICE threw non-violent protesters under the bus for clicks

Feb. 16, 2019, 9:28 a.m.

Earlier this week VICE released a video special on the Berkely-based animal rights group, Direct Action Everywhere (DxE). Framed next to a picture of a threatening hand with a shotgun, the video asks the question ...

Crystal Porter: A Powerful Voice Against Germantown Gun Violence

YWI Profile Series, Part 1

Feb. 11, 2019, 3:05 p.m.

Originally Published for WOMEN'S WAY.

In her 29 years living in Philadelphia’s Germantown neighborhood, Crystal Porter has seen over 30 people she knew killed by gun violence. A chef at The Union League (Philadelphia ...

Holiday Gift Guide for the Philly Feminist

Originally Published for WOMEN'S WAY

Feb. 10, 2019, 6:14 p.m.

Read on Medium

Tis the season of giving — which means struggling all month to figure out what to get for your friends and family. For those of us who care about what causes and systems ...

Your top questions about living with a chicken answered!

Where does she sleep? What happens to the eggs? Poop?!

Dec. 12, 2018, 9:29 p.m.



Why do you have a chicken?

Chickens in Saba Halal Slaughterhouse

In June of this year I walked into a Kensington slaughterhouse with 40 other activists. What we saw in there was horrifying. Hundreds of animals were kept in cages ...

5 Tips for Keeping the Liberation Pledge on your First Week of Work

(without getting fired)

Nov. 22, 2018, 6:33 p.m.

The Liberation Pledge is a commitment to anti-speciesism which involves refusing to sit where the bodies of animals are being eaten. I wrote two years ago about why took the pledge, and over the course ...

"Not for Pregnant Women or Aliens"

It's Time for Tech Conferences to Start being Accountable to Women

Nov. 7, 2018, 7:34 p.m.

Last week I attended a tech conference in Philadelphia with the goal of familiarizing myself with a few Javascript frameworks I had previously been scared to touch (Python is more my thing). Overall the conference ...

Why Women need to Start Caring about Software Freedom

Oct. 25, 2018, 2:47 p.m.

Imagine a future where the world’s governments are controlled by warring corporations, freedom of communication and information is limited only to non-seditious speech which does not challenge the new status-quo, and technology is used ...

Vivisection and Feminism

How females are used as reproductive machines

Oct. 22, 2018, 6:37 p.m.

When I was an undergrad at Ithaca College, I was awarded the opportunity to conduct an original research study over the summer of my Junior year. I was thrilled to have an opportunity that most ...

The Truth of Animal Testing

My experience in a college rat lab.

Oct. 22, 2018, 6:35 p.m.

I was recently asked by a student who is studying animal testing to provide my experience working in a lab. I thought I would publish what I wrote to her in case others may benefit ...