Women’s voices are always perceived as ‘wrong’, but listening to them more can help.
Nov. 18, 2019, 1:12 p.m.
For years I hated the sound of my own voice. Like many people, hearing my voice played back to me on video or audio recording made me cringe, shrivel up, and want to shrink and ...
#12. Women’s ability to recognize male behavior patterns is misandry.
Nov. 17, 2019, 3:12 p.m.
If you’re a woman who exists in this world, you’ve probably recognized patterns of male behavior that are used to silence, belittle, and control women. Women have been finding and naming these behaviors ...
I have a massive list of ideas, so why am I frozen?
Nov. 16, 2019, 8:56 p.m.
There is a threshold between my room and the rest of the house, a tall arch that opens to a little balcony overlooking the foyer and living room. My cat likes to sit just on ...
Why John Oliver’s musical revenge episode feels so satisfying.
Nov. 16, 2019, 8:55 p.m.
John Oliver’s November 10th episode of Last Week Tonight was a masterpiece of petty revenge. The episode focused on SLAPP (Strategic Lawsuit Against Public Participation) suits, baseless lawsuits designed to scare journalists and activists ...
Hundreds of volunteers are cleaning up animal agriculture’s mess
Nov. 14, 2019, 12:35 p.m.
Will you respect my identity, too?
Nov. 13, 2019, 12:47 p.m.
Growing up, I didn’t identify as a girl. I was told I was a girl every Sunday when my parents forced me into a dress for church — often in spite of my kicking and ...
I’m finally letting go of my shame.
Nov. 12, 2019, 11:19 a.m.
A classic poster-child version of women who have abortions exists in some progressive discourse. She is young, white, and she made a one time mistake. Choosing to have an abortion is the hardest decision she ...
My Phone Anxiety is Preventing Me from Writing
Nov. 11, 2019, 2:57 p.m.
Despite being a text-centric Millennial who grew up on AIM and talking primarily through written communication, I didn’t always have phone anxiety. As a teenager and college student, I was happy to call my ...
My experience torturing and killing mothers for science.
Nov. 6, 2019, 9:54 p.m.
As an undergrad at Ithaca College, I was awarded the opportunity to conduct an original research study over the summer of my Junior year. I was thrilled to have an opportunity that most undergrads don ...
Confessions from a misophonic cat mama.
Nov. 5, 2019, 6:27 p.m.
This is a confession: I’m writing this piece because feel like if I don’t talk about this I’m going to snap. And I don’t want to snap at her.
My cat ...
My ship’s parts are constantly being restored.
Nov. 4, 2019, 8:30 p.m.
Imagine that a Grecian museum has preserved the famous Ship of Theseus, the mythical king of Athens. The ship has been in their care for hundreds of years and, one by one, the wooden parts ...
I thought I already knew everything as an activist — but Teddy was a wakeup call.
Nov. 4, 2019, 11:50 a.m.
When I met Teddy, in February of 2018, I had already been vegan for three years, and a leader in Philadelphia’s grassroots animal rights movement. My organization, which grew from a small handful of ...
The long history of comparing feminists to Nazis.
Nov. 4, 2019, 11:01 a.m.
The misogynist tradition of comparing feminists to Nazis may have been started by the right by shock-jock Rush Limbaugh but, now, as the right increasingly embraces more and more Nazi ideology, a curious reversal has ...
How gender-neutral language is erasing global sexualized violence and discrimination against women and girls.
Nov. 1, 2019, 7 p.m.
A few months ago, I was sitting in a meeting with staff members of Women’s Way, a Philadelphia non-profit that sprung up in the 70s to help fund abortions. At the time, when abortion ...
Psychology says ‘no’.
Oct. 31, 2019, 3:54 p.m.
There is probably no one as beloved by liberals right now than President Barack Obama, but on Tuesday he delivered a message that his supporters are unlikely to head. At the annual Obama Foundation Summit ...
On rape, PTSD, running, and Halloween.
Oct. 31, 2019, 3:52 p.m.
This post contains descriptions of rape, abuse, and PTSD. Please be kind to yourself and stop reading if you need to.
I don’t know where I’m running to, I just know that I ...
The new world order women live in.
Oct. 29, 2019, 12:50 p.m.
We see the same question asked every time there are new allegations of abuse against a famous man: “Why didn’t she report it sooner?”
During the nomination of Brett Kavanaugh, critics of his accusers ...
No hacks, just honest work.
Oct. 29, 2019, 12:49 p.m.
When I first started writing on Medium, I didn’t even know about the Medium Partner Program. I had no plans to make money here. My goal was to rebrand myself as a feminist writer ...
We don’t need to belittle our accomplishments as we age.
Oct. 27, 2019, 11:35 a.m.
A few days before my 27th birthday, I had a short exchange with an old friend. She asked if I was excited for my birthday, which I normally am. Historically, I love my birthday.
1. Don’t claim womanhood for yourself.
Oct. 24, 2019, 2:15 p.m.
Women are oppressed on the basis of our sex — this is the most basic, simplistic, and fundamental understanding of patriarchy. For centuries, feminists have campaigned for women’s liberation from patriarchy, a large part of ...
Liane Moriarty’s novel, now an HBO drama, demonstrates female solidarity in important and unexpected ways.
Oct. 23, 2019, 9:30 a.m.
Warning: This post contains spoilers for Liane’s Moriarty’s “Big Little Lies,” as well as Season 1 of the TV adaptation.
Liane Moriarty’s novel, now a hit HBO drama, is a story about ...
Good news for unpopular opinions is good news for society.
Oct. 23, 2019, 12:29 a.m.
There are probably some voices you don’t want to hear: trolls, men’s rights activists, gun nuts, flat eathers, anti-vaxxers... each person has their personal list of too-controversial topics. Lots of people would rather ...
The undoing of 100 years of women’s political action.
Oct. 22, 2019, 12:27 p.m.
Hedy Lamarr’s story is heartbreaking and infuriating.
Oct. 21, 2019, 3:02 p.m.
Warning: This post contains spoilers for Marie Benedict’s “The Only Woman in the Room,” although all spoilers are also just historical facts. Proceed at your own discretion.
When I finished Marie Benedict’s latest ...
I’m getting particularly tired of pumpkin-spice flavored sexism.
Oct. 20, 2019, 3:37 p.m.
This should be old news by October of 2019, but here I am writing about it anyway. Halloween costumes are sexist, yeah yeah, we get it. This topic has been done to death only to ...
It’s one giant leap for woman-kind.
Oct. 19, 2019, 1:57 p.m.
On Friday morning, at 7:38 am EST, Jessica Meir and Christina Koch made history in the first-ever all-female spacewalk in NASA’s 61-year history. They are supported on the ground by another woman, flight ...
Jumpstart your daily productivity by keeping your mind healthy
Oct. 19, 2019, 1:56 p.m.
It’s 6:00 am, and I’m awake. My alarm isn’t set to go off for another two hours, but I’m always woken up early with a giant pang of anxiety. The ...
Empathy is the key.
Oct. 18, 2019, 6:04 p.m.
There’s a lot of advice out there on how to handle your own relationship — but what happens when you’re tasked with fixing someone else’s? While most of us (rightly) try to stay ...
Clinton has recently been called a “TERF” for advocating sensitivity for women’s rights.
Oct. 16, 2019, 3:03 p.m.
It’s just not worth it.
Oct. 15, 2019, 8:55 p.m.
Let’s just get this out of the way: I hate social media. There’s no hiding it. Despite the fact that I actually run a social media site, I truly despise it. Nothing gives ...
It’s hard to replicate that sense of community elsewhere.
Oct. 14, 2019, 11:04 p.m.
I grew up in an extreme evangelical Christian church. The type of church where kids go to Bible camp in the summer, pastors blame natural disasters on gay people, and Harry Potter is burned at ...
It’s time to stop letting men hold the power of language, history, and identity.
Oct. 13, 2019, 9:59 p.m.
There is, perhaps, a no more constant reminder to women of our subjugation than our own names. A woman’s name, supposedly her most personal possession, central to her identity, is wrought with the history ...
I didn’t feel ashamed of my background until I got out.
Oct. 12, 2019, 4:19 p.m.
When we arrive at my in-laws’ home in Spring, Texas, a charming Houston suburb, I’m immediately hit by the smell of blueberry muffins and laundry detergent. The house my partner, Alex, grew up in ...
When mental illness and a female body collide
Oct. 8, 2019, 5 p.m.
I’ve struggled with my mental health since I was young. For me, it seems like there’s a strong genetic component — all of my biological siblings suffered from depression when they hit puberty, while ...
Three and a half years later, we’re still going strong.
Oct. 8, 2019, 4:59 p.m.
It’s hard to overstate how sure I was just a few short years ago that I would never date another man again. At the age of 21, I had thrown myself into radical feminist ...
Follow the rules, format well, and cite your sources
Oct. 8, 2019, 4:58 p.m.
Last month, I decided to make writing on Medium my part-time job. I published a total of 16 pieces (only 14 of which were “real” articles — two were never really meant to be widely distributed ...
One thing was clear: Rose didn’t know she was being filmed.
Oct. 5, 2019, 3:44 p.m.
It was the summer of 2011 when I found the video. I had just completed my first year of college, and I was back in my hometown for the summer. My family was a wreck ...
Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.
Oct. 4, 2019, 2:34 p.m.
Warning: This post contains major spoilers for Liane Moriarty’s, The Husband’s Secret.
Liane Moriarty’s 2013 book, The Husband’s Secret, is a page-turning mystery that centers on the lives of three ...
Is polyamory really progressive? Or just the same-old patriarchy?
Oct. 3, 2019, 3:19 p.m.
Alright, I may have exaggerated a bit. Certainly, not all of my friends are polyamorous — but it sure is starting to feel that way.
A couple of weeks ago my (monogamous) partner and I attended ...
And how I got the bug back after a five-year hiatus.
Oct. 3, 2019, 3:19 p.m.
The blinking clock on my dresser reads 10:34 PM, and I’m halfway through a novel I bought only a few hours ago. This will be the second novel I finish this week, after ...
It’s not just harmless fun.
Oct. 1, 2019, 3:56 p.m.
The term “rape culture” was coined by the Second Wave feminists, but in the #MeToo era it has taken on a life of its own. Brock Turner, Brett Kavanaugh, and Harvey Weinstein have become the ...
How we let men get away with not caring.
Sept. 30, 2019, 8:58 p.m.
“He’s just more logical than me.”
I have heard this phrase more times than I can count, only uttered by women in relationships with men. I have even said it myself. And I am ...
Not enough to totally change my mind, though.
Sept. 29, 2019, 10:47 p.m.
A little over a month ago, my partner, Alex, and I were attacked at our West Philadelphia home by a man with a gun. What started out as a simple neighbor dispute over porch gardens ...
I care what you’re giving to the world.
Sept. 28, 2019, 5:45 p.m.
In our capitalist-driven culture, it feels nearly impossible to separate your job from your sense of self. “What do you do?”, strangers ask you as polite small talk. Maybe you do gardening, maybe you raise ...
But reality isn’t as glamorous as fiction.
Sept. 27, 2019, 4:28 p.m.
Warning: This post contains major spoilers for Margeret Atwood’s new book, “The Testaments”.
In her new sequel to “The Handmaid’s Tale”, “The Testaments”, Marget Atwood attempts to answer two of the biggest questions ...
But really, I’m just more used to it.
Sept. 26, 2019, 5:23 p.m.
It’s a common scene in our relationship: We’re walking down the street at night and Alex, my partner of over three years, suddenly speeds up. Or maybe he switches sides with me on ...
Am I a bad feminist if I don’t?
Sept. 25, 2019, 5:51 p.m.
Two years ago, I stopped shaving my legs. At the time I was living in a vegan feminist cooperative— which is pretty much exactly what you would imagine.
None of the other women there shaved ...
Maybe I’m too jaded — but I also doubt that I’m alone.
Sept. 25, 2019, 5:50 p.m.
We’ve been hearing about it for days, now: President Trump pressured the President of Ukraine to dig up political dirt on 2020 rival Joe Biden and his son, possibly in exchange for military aid ...
Yeah, I said it.
Sept. 24, 2019, 3:07 p.m.
Two years ago when I asked my boyfriend to stop using porn, I was afraid. I didn’t want to break up, but in the 15 months since we had met, this became a deal-breaker ...
Growing and Healing Together
Sept. 23, 2019, 4 p.m.
Last year, I learned that I have Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). My diagnosis didn’t exactly come as a surprise to anyone. I spent years in an abusive relationship where I was exposed to serious ...
How UBI Could Help Victims of Domestic Violence
Sept. 22, 2019, 5:24 p.m.
Warning: This post contains discussion of suicide, domestic violence, and sexual abuse.
Four years ago, on September 23rd, 2015, my mom took her own life. She was 50 years old and left behind six children ...
Stop, Drop, and Roll
Sept. 21, 2019, 3:49 p.m.
Weall know it. Social media is a total dumpster fire. We know these corporations are abusing us — mining our data for profit. We know it makes us completely miserable and hinders our ability to form ...
(Especially if you’re trying to change the world)
Sept. 20, 2019, 2:08 p.m.
We all want to be well-liked.
Girls are conditioned from a young age to prioritize being liked and accepted above nearly all else. Pleasantness and agreeableness are important traits of femininity. In some ways, this ...
Sept. 13, 2019, 12:39 p.m.
On August 12th, Spinster, a women-first social media platform, burst into the Fediverse. In its first month, Spinster faced misogynistic attacks from both the left and the right, repeated attempts to de-platform us (including removal ...
On coping with contradictions as a gender abolitionist
Sept. 11, 2019, 2:34 p.m.
It’s wedding season in the United States — a time of friends and family, celebrations, joy, and new beginnings. This wedding season I’m attending two, and am a bridesmaid in one of them. I ...
Sept. 10, 2019, 9:18 a.m.
Transgender identities are on the rise in the United States and across the world. Between 2011 and 2016 the rate of trans-identifying people in the United States doubled to 1.4 million, an unprecedented jump ...
Aug. 23, 2019, 1:14 p.m.
When I was in high school, my boyfriend was black. His father was a Baptist pastor at a local church and worked as a park ranger at Valley Forge National Park. Mr. Jones* was a ...
Aug. 10, 2019, 6:12 p.m.
Like most other women today, I’ve been worried about how I look since I was a young girl. I don’t remember when exactly it started, maybe in middle school. I remember looking at ...
How an alarming DM sent me down the disturbing rabbit hole of neo-Nazi propaganda
Aug. 8, 2019, 1:10 p.m.
The other day I received a message on one of my personal social media accounts. The ominous note simply read, “How do you do fellow feminist?” and was accompanied by an image of 55 feminists ...
It’s been said before, but it’s time to say it again.
Aug. 4, 2019, 10:58 a.m.
Aug. 3, 2019, 10:50 a.m.
My cat, Hathor, and I have a lot in common. We’re both morning people, who enjoy waking up with the sun. We both like houseplants and watching the birds out our back window. We ...
(especially if it’s against women)
Aug. 2, 2019, 11:04 a.m.
A new trend is growing in progressive liberal circles — calling anything you disagree with “violence”. For example, consider this response I received to a recent article:
"I consider this article an act of violence towards ...
Aug. 1, 2019, 4:48 p.m.
Have you ever felt like your whole life is falling apart, and that you are losing everything and everyone that matters to you?
I have. A few times now.
In 2016 my mom committed suicide ...
Published for WOMEN'S WAY on Medium
July 23, 2019, 7:25 p.m.
The United States contains 5% of the total world population — but 20% of the world’s incarcerated population. Women currently represent the fastest-growing prison population, rising 834% between 1978 and 2015 (more than double the ...
July 14, 2019, 2:47 p.m.
In the summer of 2018 I lived in a house with 3 other women. We spent a lot of time together that year, and there were many late-night conversations about the sexism, misogyny, and male ...
July 14, 2019, 2:45 p.m.
Originally Published in the FSF Bulletin, Issue #34
June 27, 2019, midnight
In his celebrated 1963 “Letter From Birmingham Jail," Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. contrasted "a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice ...
June 25, 2019, 8:53 p.m.
It’s not popular in “progressive” liberal circles to defend women’s rights any more.
Last year I was forced out of my home and kicked out of an animal rights group I had founded ...
On her path to success, what women owe to RBG, and both of their futures.
May 17, 2019, 3:24 p.m.
To be updated as I find more
May 17, 2019, 3:16 p.m.
In the light of the current state of abortion rights in the United States and beyond, I've decided to start collecting a list resources on self-abortion methods as I become aware of them.
If you ...
What's missing from the mainstream sexual assault conversation?
April 29, 2019, 11:48 a.m.
Originally published for WOMEN'S WAY on Medium.
We are currently two years into the #MeToo movement against sexual harassment, which continues to spread and take down powerful politicians, actors and comedians, and even clergymen. Even ...
The joy and disappointment of the all-female tech conference
April 19, 2019, 10:52 a.m.
The 2019 Northeast Women In Tech Summit (WITS), which took place last Friday and Saturday, brought together a variable who’s-who of female technologists in the greater-Philadelphia region for two days of women-led and women-centric ...
Roe may be in jeopardy, but for many women abortion was never accessible anyways.
April 6, 2019, 10:06 a.m.
Originally published on Medium for WOMEN'S WAY.
“I certainly would like to prevent, if I could legally, anybody having an abortion, a rich woman, a middle-class woman, or a poor woman. Unfortunately, the only vehicle ...
Originally published on Medium
March 6, 2019, 11:19 a.m.
How VICE threw non-violent protesters under the bus for clicks
Feb. 16, 2019, 9:28 a.m.
Earlier this week VICE released a video special on the Berkely-based animal rights group, Direct Action Everywhere (DxE). Framed next to a picture of a threatening hand with a shotgun, the video asks the question ...
YWI Profile Series, Part 1
Feb. 11, 2019, 3:05 p.m.
Originally Published for WOMEN'S WAY.
In her 29 years living in Philadelphia’s Germantown neighborhood, Crystal Porter has seen over 30 people she knew killed by gun violence. A chef at The Union League (Philadelphia ...
Where does she sleep? What happens to the eggs? Poop?!
Dec. 12, 2018, 9:29 p.m.
Why do you have a chicken?
In June of this year I walked into a Kensington slaughterhouse with 40 other activists. What we saw in there was horrifying. Hundreds of animals were kept in cages ...
(without getting fired)
Nov. 22, 2018, 6:33 p.m.
It's Time for Tech Conferences to Start being Accountable to Women
Nov. 7, 2018, 7:34 p.m.
Oct. 25, 2018, 2:47 p.m.
Imagine a future where the world’s governments are controlled by warring corporations, freedom of communication and information is limited only to non-seditious speech which does not challenge the new status-quo, and technology is used ...
My experience in a college rat lab.
Oct. 22, 2018, 6:35 p.m.
I was recently asked by a student who is studying animal testing to provide my experience working in a lab. I thought I would publish what I wrote to her in case others may benefit ...