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Reporting On Suicide When You Have Mental Illness

How writers can keep distance and take care of themselves

Dec. 6, 2019, 2:13 a.m.

This post contains discussion of suicide and suicidal thoughts.

Over the past few days, I’ve been working on a story about two K-pop stars, Sulli and Goo Hara, who recently committed suicide after facing ...

How to Auto-Delete Your Tweets

And why you might want to

Dec. 5, 2019, 12:04 a.m.

People are constantly being canceled over their old tweets. Everyone from Chrissy Teigan to Kevin Hart have faced the ire of the outraged masses when old tweets were revealed that don’t paint them in ...

The Three Things I Deleted from My Phone to Improve Our Relationship

Are you in an abusive relationship with your tech?

Nov. 26, 2019, 2:32 p.m.

We’re in abusive relationships with our technology. As someone who has both survived an abusive relationship myself and worked at a domestic violence shelter, I feel I can say this without exaggeration.

The excuses ...

Are You in Twitter Jail?

What to do if you’re deboosted on Twitter

Nov. 22, 2019, 5:19 p.m.

You Might Not Even Know if You’re in Twitter Jail

Although Twitter claims they don’t shadow ban users, this is only strictly true if you adhere to their very narrow definition of shadow ...

I Don’t Get Writer’s Block, I Get Anxiety

I have a massive list of ideas, so why am I frozen?

Nov. 17, 2019, 1:56 a.m.

There is a threshold between my room and the rest of the house, a tall arch that opens to a little balcony overlooking the foyer and living room. My cat likes to sit just on ...

The Absolute Joy of Masterful Petty Revenge

Why John Oliver’s musical revenge episode feels so satisfying.

Nov. 17, 2019, 1:55 a.m.

John Oliver’s November 10th episode of Last Week Tonight was a masterpiece of petty revenge. The episode focused on SLAPP (Strategic Lawsuit Against Public Participation) suits, baseless lawsuits designed to scare journalists and activists ...

Inside the Massive Effort to Care for Animal Evacuees of the California Fire

Hundreds of volunteers are cleaning up animal agriculture’s mess

Nov. 14, 2019, 5:35 p.m.

On October 30th and 31st, The Easy and Maria fires tore across the hills of Ventura Country, California. Between the two fires, 11,272 acres of land were burned. These fires, which are exacerbated by ...

My Phone Anxiety is Preventing Me from Writing

My Phone Anxiety is Preventing Me from Writing

Nov. 11, 2019, 7:57 p.m.

Despite being a text-centric Millennial who grew up on AIM and talking primarily through written communication, I didn’t always have phone anxiety. As a teenager and college student, I was happy to call my ...

I Need Space From My Cat, and I Feel Horrible About It

Confessions from a misophonic cat mama.

Nov. 5, 2019, 11:27 p.m.

This is a confession: I’m writing this piece because feel like if I don’t talk about this I’m going to snap. And I don’t want to snap at her.

My cat ...

I Am Not Who I Was

My ship’s parts are constantly being restored.

Nov. 5, 2019, 1:30 a.m.

Imagine that a Grecian museum has preserved the famous Ship of Theseus, the mythical king of Athens. The ship has been in their care for hundreds of years and, one by one, the wooden parts ...

What One Rooster Taught Me About Anti-Speciesism

I thought I already knew everything as an activist — but Teddy was a wakeup call.

Nov. 4, 2019, 4:50 p.m.

When I met Teddy, in February of 2018, I had already been vegan for three years, and a leader in Philadelphia’s grassroots animal rights movement. My organization, which grew from a small handful of ...

Running From My Ghosts

On rape, PTSD, running, and Halloween.

Oct. 31, 2019, 7:52 p.m.

This post contains descriptions of rape, abuse, and PTSD. Please be kind to yourself and stop reading if you need to.

I don’t know where I’m running to, I just know that I ...

How I Went From Making Pennies on Medium to Over $100/Week

No hacks, just honest work.

Oct. 29, 2019, 4:49 p.m.

When I first started writing on Medium, I didn’t even know about the Medium Partner Program. I had no plans to make money here. My goal was to rebrand myself as a feminist writer ...

I Have Done Enough So Far

We don’t need to belittle our accomplishments as we age.

Oct. 27, 2019, 3:35 p.m.

A few days before my 27th birthday, I had a short exchange with an old friend. She asked if I was excited for my birthday, which I normally am. Historically, I love my birthday.

But ...

What Medium’s New Payment Model Means for Controversial Writers

Good news for unpopular opinions is good news for society.

Oct. 23, 2019, 4:29 a.m.

There are probably some voices you don’t want to hear: trolls, men’s rights activists, gun nuts, flat eathers, anti-vaxxers... each person has their personal list of too-controversial topics. Lots of people would rather ...

5 Steps to Stop Waking Up Anxious Every Day

Jumpstart your daily productivity by keeping your mind healthy

Oct. 19, 2019, 5:56 p.m.

It’s 6:00 am, and I’m awake. My alarm isn’t set to go off for another two hours, but I’m always woken up early with a giant pang of anxiety. The ...

How to be a Good Friend to Fighting Couples

Empathy is the key.

Oct. 18, 2019, 10:04 p.m.

There’s a lot of advice out there on how to handle your own relationship — but what happens when you’re tasked with fixing someone else’s? While most of us (rightly) try to stay ...

I’m an Atheist, but I Still Miss Church Sometimes

It’s hard to replicate that sense of community elsewhere.

Oct. 15, 2019, 3:04 a.m.

I grew up in an extreme evangelical Christian church. The type of church where kids go to Bible camp in the summer, pastors blame natural disasters on gay people, and Harry Potter is burned at ...

Apologizing for my Poor Family

I didn’t feel ashamed of my background until I got out.

Oct. 12, 2019, 8:19 p.m.

When we arrive at my in-laws’ home in Spring, Texas, a charming Houston suburb, I’m immediately hit by the smell of blueberry muffins and laundry detergent. The house my partner, Alex, grew up in ...

How I Achieved an 80% Medium Curation Rate in September

Follow the rules, format well, and cite your sources

Oct. 8, 2019, 8:58 p.m.

Last month, I decided to make writing on Medium my part-time job. I published a total of 16 pieces (only 14 of which were “real” articles — two were never really meant to be widely distributed ...

Why I Stopped Reading Fiction

And how I got the bug back after a five-year hiatus.

Oct. 3, 2019, 7:19 p.m.

The blinking clock on my dresser reads 10:34 PM, and I’m halfway through a novel I bought only a few hours ago. This will be the second novel I finish this week, after ...

“He’s Just More Logical Than Me”

How we let men get away with not caring.

Oct. 1, 2019, 12:58 a.m.

“He’s just more logical than me.”

I have heard this phrase more times than I can count, only uttered by women in relationships with men. I have even said it myself. And I am ...

Being Attacked At Gunpoint Helped Me Understand Conservatives

Not enough to totally change my mind, though.

Sept. 30, 2019, 2:47 a.m.

A little over a month ago, my partner, Alex, and I were attacked at our West Philadelphia home by a man with a gun. What started out as a simple neighbor dispute over porch gardens ...

I Don’t Care What Your Job Is

I care what you’re giving to the world.

Sept. 28, 2019, 9:45 p.m.

In our capitalist-driven culture, it feels nearly impossible to separate your job from your sense of self. “What do you do?”, strangers ask you as polite small talk. Maybe you do gardening, maybe you raise ...

Does Anyone Actually Think Ukraine Will Change Anything?

Maybe I’m too jaded — but I also doubt that I’m alone.

Sept. 25, 2019, 9:50 p.m.

We’ve been hearing about it for days, now: President Trump pressured the President of Ukraine to dig up political dirt on 2020 rival Joe Biden and his son, possibly in exchange for military aid ...

Can Houseplants Really Help With PTSD?

Growing and Healing Together

Sept. 23, 2019, 8 p.m.

Last year, I learned that I have Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). My diagnosis didn’t exactly come as a surprise to anyone. I spent years in an abusive relationship where I was exposed to serious ...

How To Use Social Media Without Losing Your Mind

Stop, Drop, and Roll

Sept. 21, 2019, 7:49 p.m.

Weall know it. Social media is a total dumpster fire. We know these corporations are abusing us — mining our data for profit. We know it makes us completely miserable and hinders our ability to form ...

Spinster is in its infancy, but is already making waves in the Fediverse

Sept. 13, 2019, 4:39 p.m.

On August 12th, Spinster, a women-first social media platform, burst into the Fediverse. In its first month, Spinster faced misogynistic attacks from both the left and the right, repeated attempts to de-platform us (including removal ...

How I Learned to Love Free Speech

Aug. 23, 2019, 5:14 p.m.

When I was in high school, my boyfriend was black. His father was a Baptist pastor at a local church and worked as a park ranger at Valley Forge National Park. Mr. Jones* was a ...

How to bounce back when you lose it all

Aug. 1, 2019, 8:48 p.m.

Have you ever felt like your whole life is falling apart, and that you are losing everything and everyone that matters to you?

I have. A few times now.

In 2016 my mom committed suicide ...

Women face disproportionate barriers in reentry. Meet the Philly organization out to change that.

Published for WOMEN'S WAY on Medium

July 23, 2019, 11:25 p.m.

The United States contains 5% of the total world population — but 20% of the world’s incarcerated population. Women currently represent the fastest-growing prison population, rising 834% between 1978 and 2015 (more than double the ...

The rise of the ‘male feminist’ doesn’t demonstrate a win for feminism

Feminist Current

July 14, 2019, 6:45 p.m.

Self-described male feminist, Aziz Ansari, is making a comeback. On July 9th, Ansari’s new comedy special hit Netflix, marking a major revival after his #MeToo moment last year. In 2018, the comedian, actor, and ...

Sparking Change: What Free Software can Learn from Social Justice Movements

Originally Published in the FSF Bulletin, Issue #34

June 27, 2019, 4 a.m.

In his celebrated 1963 “Letter From Birmingham Jail," Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. contrasted "a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice ...

Interview with RBG Director, Julie Cohen

On her path to success, what women owe to RBG, and both of their futures.

May 17, 2019, 7:24 p.m.

Originally published for WOMEN'S WAY on Medium.

On May 22nd WOMEN’S WAY will be awarding the annual Lucretia Mott Award to Oscar-nominated RBG directors Betsy West and Julie Cohen. I had the pleasure of ...

A Running List of Self-Abortion Resources

To be updated as I find more

May 17, 2019, 7:16 p.m.

In the light of the current state of abortion rights in the United States and beyond, I've decided to start collecting a list resources on self-abortion methods as I become aware of them.

If you ...

WITS NE 2019: My Experience

The joy and disappointment of the all-female tech conference

April 19, 2019, 2:52 p.m.

The 2019 Northeast Women In Tech Summit (WITS), which took place last Friday and Saturday, brought together a variable who’s-who of female technologists in the greater-Philadelphia region for two days of women-led and women-centric ...

The not-so-secret racism behind PA’s strict abortion laws

Roe may be in jeopardy, but for many women abortion was never accessible anyways.

April 6, 2019, 2:06 p.m.

Originally published on Medium for WOMEN'S WAY.

“I certainly would like to prevent, if I could legally, anybody having an abortion, a rich woman, a middle-class woman, or a poor woman. Unfortunately, the only vehicle ...

5 Biggest Takeaways from Ijeoma Oluo at WOMEN’S WAY Book Prize

Originally published on Medium

March 6, 2019, 4:19 p.m.

Last night, on Monday March 4th, WOMEN’S WAY awarded their 11th Annual Book Prize to Ijeoma Oluo, author of “So You Want to Talk About Race.” The celebration took place at the Comcast Technology ...

DxE is many things, but it’s not Terrorism

How VICE threw non-violent protesters under the bus for clicks

Feb. 16, 2019, 2:28 p.m.

Earlier this week VICE released a video special on the Berkely-based animal rights group, Direct Action Everywhere (DxE). Framed next to a picture of a threatening hand with a shotgun, the video asks the question ...

Crystal Porter: A Powerful Voice Against Germantown Gun Violence

YWI Profile Series, Part 1

Feb. 11, 2019, 8:05 p.m.

Originally Published for WOMEN'S WAY.

In her 29 years living in Philadelphia’s Germantown neighborhood, Crystal Porter has seen over 30 people she knew killed by gun violence. A chef at The Union League (Philadelphia ...

Holiday Gift Guide for the Philly Feminist

Originally Published for WOMEN'S WAY

Feb. 10, 2019, 11:14 p.m.

Read on Medium

Tis the season of giving — which means struggling all month to figure out what to get for your friends and family. For those of us who care about what causes and systems ...

Your top questions about living with a chicken answered!

Where does she sleep? What happens to the eggs? Poop?!

Dec. 13, 2018, 2:29 a.m.



Why do you have a chicken?

Chickens in Saba Halal Slaughterhouse

In June of this year I walked into a Kensington slaughterhouse with 40 other activists. What we saw in there was horrifying. Hundreds of animals were kept in cages ...

5 Tips for Keeping the Liberation Pledge on your First Week of Work

(without getting fired)

Nov. 22, 2018, 11:33 p.m.

The Liberation Pledge is a commitment to anti-speciesism which involves refusing to sit where the bodies of animals are being eaten. I wrote two years ago about why took the pledge, and over the course ...

"Not for Pregnant Women or Aliens"

It's Time for Tech Conferences to Start being Accountable to Women

Nov. 8, 2018, 12:34 a.m.

Last week I attended a tech conference in Philadelphia with the goal of familiarizing myself with a few Javascript frameworks I had previously been scared to touch (Python is more my thing). Overall the conference ...

Why Women need to Start Caring about Software Freedom

Oct. 25, 2018, 6:47 p.m.

Imagine a future where the world’s governments are controlled by warring corporations, freedom of communication and information is limited only to non-seditious speech which does not challenge the new status-quo, and technology is used ...

The Truth of Animal Testing

My experience in a college rat lab.

Oct. 22, 2018, 10:35 p.m.

I was recently asked by a student who is studying animal testing to provide my experience working in a lab. I thought I would publish what I wrote to her in case others may benefit ...